For some newly single men and women getting back into the dating scene is almost immediate.
Even though they struggle with the trauma of a marital breakup, ex-spouses may seek to get involved with someone for various reasons.
And as with any loss, big or small, time is needed to grieve and to reassess who you are, where you've been and where God wants you to go.
Healing is also necessary to follow God's command to" do unto others what you would have them do unto you," (Matthew ).
The rate of divorce in America remains high, leaving many adult men and women alone, available and wondering how to maneuver on the playing field. D., offers advice gleaned from his own research and that of other experts to help you get back into dating mode.
After years of being in a relationship, putting yourself back in the singles market can be a daunting endeavor. After 19 years of waking up next to the same person, Yolanda*, a marketing consultant, suddenly found herself greeting mornings alone.
Like Jennifer, she needs some advice but is concerned about how she can make the transition into dating easy on her children. He'd like to date again, and some of his friends say he should start looking for a woman now — after all, he's getting divorced soon.
But John knows better because he's still married, and dating now would go against God's desires.
The way one person deals with the trauma of a marital breakup may be completely different from another.In one study conducted at the University of Michigan Institute for Social Research, social psychologist Jerald G. D., found that nearly 50 percent of 18-year-olds go out at least once a week, compared with only approximately 25 percent of 32-year-olds.While it's true that some people simply choose not to date, others want to but don't know how to go about it or can't overcome their negative self-thoughts.With so many single adults out there, one might guess that there's also a lot of dating going on.Instead, it seems that the older we get, the less we date.Because, as the saying goes, those who do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it.